How to heal, not just cope with mental illness (Part 3): No Judgment
We came into the world with our emotions defending creation. Our personal body is our personal canvas of creation, with our lifestyle the paint brush and paint. Our lifestyle is determined by our mindset, which is created by our nurturing from the innate creativity of our nurturers translating our emotions and helping us satisfy our innate needs. Since our emotions were defending who we are at birth, our nurtured mindset is meant to be of service to creation for us to be mentally healthy, but we’ve sophisticated ourselves into trying to do the impossible, which is rule creation by being of service to the products/ideologies of our innate creativity (Clothes, Cars, Houses, Fame, Fortune, Marriage, Religion, etc.). Judging ourselves, others, and things by them.
The general definition of Judgment in dictionaries is:
“The act or process of forming an opinion or making a decision after careful thought: the act of judging something or someone.” The Britannica dictionary
The key in the above definition is “careful thought”, because the WHY at the very root of those thoughts is our innate need to be of service to creation. Survival. By the time we’re adults making our own decisions, those thoughts are nurtured habitual thoughts, mentally healthy or not, that we adapted to being formed, and they rule our choices.
We all have a history with the concept of Judgment and that history directly correlates to our mental health. Our nurtured mindset, our script, is meant to be a survival guide for us in the language of our environment, not enslave our free will, which in turn has us trying to enslave the free will of others. My history with the concept of Judgment started with my religious upbringing in Christianity that left me with an abstract relationship with our source. The “thou shalt nots...” with brimstone and fire the punishment for living a life of “sin”, which had me full of fear. What I know now is that my abstract relationship and fear from duality of mind had nothing with what was outside of me but was feedback from within about the judgmental thoughts I had rebelliously agreed with growing up that were in conflict with creation. The only way to heal was to change those thoughts. When I crashed emotionally in late 2008, I didn’t have that knowledge, and, even if I did, I wouldn't have known how to change them, so I felt I needed help. I did something I had said I would never do, sought therapy. After a few sessions with two different therapists, I knew it wasn’t for me, because I wanted to attack this problem the same way I attacked getting into physical shape in 1998, which was very practical. Joined a gym and just did it.
Now I love life without conditions, no Judgment, but back then the WHY behind my choosing to get in shape was Judgment. Seeking validation for how I look from our species, and that WHY was what needed changing.
I go into details about my journey with no Judgment in my signature course “Get Peaced with 6 Innate Needs”, but long story short for this post, during my seeking to cope with my pain before crashing, I opened my mind to different translations of Judgment, and, by the time I crashed, I had emancipated from the brimstone and fire of my nurturing. After choosing Peace was when I not only realized my need to change my thoughts, but that it was impossible to do that with Judgment. I made no Judgment my mantra but found it extremely hard to stop those judgmental thoughts, so I chose “get over yourself” as my second mantra. A harsher alternative to accomplish my goal, and it worked. But healing doesn’t stop at no Judgment, it only allows us to comfortably face those enslaving habitual thoughts. Emancipating from them needs knowledge of self, the unbeatable weapons of the Peace warrior.
Next: How to heal, not just cope with mental illness (Part 4): Know yourself